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How my Nepali parents raised me and How I'm changing : A personal story

 Comparison is the thief of joy. At least, that's how it has been for most of my life. If you knew my folks, you'd understand—growing up, it was always about who scored better in exams: me or my friends. This instilled in me the belief that I had to compete and compare myself with others to earn the love I deserved. It's not their fault; I was their first child, and many other parents in our society acted the same way. But this constant comparison of everything you do and have with someone else stifles your satisfaction.

What years of reading self-help books and incredible fiction has taught me is that even the great people who led the world were once trapped in this same mindset. So what changed for them? Most of them started competing with themselves—comparing who they were yesterday with who they are today, and with who they want to become tomorrow. This is one powerful way to transform your life, and I am working on putting it into practice. I still catch myself comparing to others, one way or another, but as I take it day by day, I'm confident I'll leave that habit behind.

For mental fortitude, I'm currently reading Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins. He gets straight to the point, sharing lessons learned the hard way, and I really appreciate that about the book. Changing my mindset and how I operate has always been a goal, and now that I’m on the path to self-respect and improvement, I will reach that goal—no matter how much suffering it takes. Until next time...

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